We'll ask you rather than guess. If the two partners look alike – the same surname, similar first names, a matching year – their button shows part green, with the reasons beside it. For example, if one record has Grandad George married to Margaret and the other has Georgie married to Peggy, they're offered as the next merge, with their own save and their own undo.
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